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    Just a thought...please?

    First off: Ramblings.
    I feel weird posting this, as it is completely off my own bat, and completely different to the car based conversations I enjoy the most on the forum.

    Also after having had a great time at Langley Castle, real life is starting to bite. And it's gonna bite hard tomorrow.

    I wondered about making this my 500th post of the forum, but got carried away with all the fun of Langley..
    So this is number 500 and odd.

    Hope you don't mind the post/thread and please do ignore it if it means nothing to you. I know we're not alone and several others (Eddie, E30, Lost It are having tough times, and I genuinely, sincerely offer my best wishes to anyone who's struggling for whatever reason.

    However, I felt I'd like to share my daughter's situation (and by extension, my own).

    Second off: Relevancies.
    Tomorrow will probably be the toughest day of my precious daughter's life, as she (and I, of course - always by her side if/when she needs me) will attend the funeral of one of her best friends, who died just over a week ago of cancer, aged 17.

    I don't want to mention names, as I haven't sought permission to post this...
    I also don't want to give too much away for the same reason (the family obviously need their privacy), but suffice to say that the chap involved had made it though a long course of treatment and was looking good. Even hit a new personal best in his swimming in March '19.
    My daughter said recently "I always feel good when <xxxx> is around. He's cheerful, joking and happy and we relate to each other."

    Can't believe he's not around any more. What an absolute txxt of a disease.

    But seeing how devastated my little 'un and her friends are, I felt I ought to say something, even if you can just spare us a thought tomorrow.

    Best wishes to you all. Please take care of each other.


    PS - the family have nominated a charity (Clic Sargent) in lieu of flowers, but I don't want to look like I'm begging for donations.
    If you feel like donating to a cancer charity, that'd be brilliant.
    Otherwise, we'd (my daughter & I) be grateful for your thoughts tomorrow.... Hope I can cope, never mind her...!

    Simon
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    Thoughts are with you Simon.
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    Thanks, Henry. Appreciated.
    My daughter's going to sit with her friends at the funeral and <whatever deity anyone associates with> knows what they'll be like at the end of the service...

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    Thoughts for you and your daughter.
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    I understand how your daughter feels a cousin of mine died from cancer when he was in his late teens. There are times when I still miss him.

    There are no words that can be said just be there for daughter and give her lots of time.

    All the best.

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    Thinking of you both.....
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    I lost someone very close when I was in my early twenties. I still remember the funeral vividly. I remember every detail. I remember how sureal it actually felt on the day.

    Thoughts are with you both.
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    Life is c rap at times but life has to go on, when somebody close (my daughter in my case) dies the feeling is indescribable, you feel as though you want the world to end. Passing time doesn't ease the pain but those left behind have to pick themselves up by the bootstraps...........and carry on.
    The only way Mrs V and myself got through 'our' funeral was to try and stay composed.........and grieve at home, privately. It worked for us.
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    Holding a good thought for you and your daughter. Hang in there... it will get better.
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    My thoughts are with the both of you Simon.
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