At those mileages and that journey profile, petrol is the way to go for you and I love my 2016 XF S 3 litre supercharged. You can still get a 3 litre supercharged from 2018 but they are rarer. I found the 2 litre had bad turbo lag. The supercharged doesn't suffer from that, although transmission lag is still a problem. But that's another topic.
To balance the above with positives about a DPF on a 3 litre diesel, in my experience they can be perfectly ok. If you get an Amber DPF full warning:
Go on a drive for 20 to 30 minutes, with the car warmed up, at least 25% tank full and at a steady speed of between 45 mph and 70 mph. Best to use cruise control, as traffic permits. Do NOT try to keep high revs or "drive it like you stole it". Aside from the fact that the Police do not like this behaviour, so it could be expensive, the high revs or too much of a demand for more gas cancel the regeneration rather than help it.
Once you have done the run and got the warning to turn off, prevention is better than cure. I ran a 3.0 diesel XF for 5 years on a diet of mostly sub 5 mile journeys, which would normally see a DPF clogged up. During that time I never even had an amber DPF warning much less a red. Reasons:
1> Have the car serviced every 10k miles or one year, whichever comes sooner. (Some people do an oil change every 6k miles; mine didn't need that.) I had my car serviced by Jaguar dealer (or specialist), so they would have used the proper C1 oil, which helps reduce DPF sooting.
2> Take the car for a good run at a sustained, steady speed of between 45 mph to 70 mph once or twice a month (roughly every 250 miles). This gives the DPF opportunity to regenerate ie burn off the soot buildup.
3> Top up the fuel more often. I topped up mine when range dropped to 100 miles. That way you have at least a quarter tank full of fuel for longer, which several general motoring sources say the car needs before initiating a DPF regeneration.
4> In cold weather, for the first 15 minutes of driving, keep accelerator pedal movements gentle and revs below 2,500. This will allow the engine to warm up and will reduce the soot deposits that would be generated if the car were to be driven hard while still cold.
5> Don't be afraid to use the loud pedal (the accelerator) every so often once the engine has warmed up. These cars respond well to being properly driven plus it increases the grin factor for the driver.
6> I did have my car engine carbon cleaned, but that was only once in 5 years and I'd been running the car for 3 years beforehand with no issues. I do believe the performance improved after the carbon clean (as measured against a friend's theoretically more powerful 275 PS Jaguar XF S; my 240 PS car held his on a 0-50 dash). However, others think a carbon clean is a waste of money. So you choose.
7> Other people advocate use of Premium Diesel every 4th fill. I can see that could be useful but my car never needed it.
8> Some people advocate adding a DPF cleaner, such as Archoil 6400d, to the fuel every so often. Again, I can see that would be useful, but my car never needed it.
The DPF warning isn't really a problem. It just means the DPF has not had proper time to regenerate. If you do get a diesel, do the above and you should be grand. But I definitely think a petrol is the way to go for you.